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How to be the “green” sheep in your family – Tips to have a healthy relationship with them whilst you move onto a more sustainable lifestyle

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I am the green sheep of my family

Green, if you are in this path towards having a sustainable lifestyle, you’ve been labelled with this colour too. We are the green sheep of the family, the hippies, the tree huggers, you name it. I actually feel flattered when they call me this because they’re seen in me the person that I want to become, but I’m nowhere near there, I still have a lot to learn.

I care about nature, animals and human beings

We are green because we talk about all the things that we want to change in our lives to be more in tune with nature, whether is eating a plant-based diet, having a zero waste lifestyle, or buying second-hand clothes, everything is associated with green.

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Walking along the England Coast – Being in touch with nature makes us realised how important it is to take care of our environment

The challenge of being “green” around your love ones

But, what happens with those people that surround us? Our families, friends and partners. What happens when they’re not green? and have no intention of being so. This could be a challenge for all the green sheep out there. I say challenge because it’s not an obstacle; it just means bringing the conversation to the table. There is something we have to truly acknowledge to ourselves:

We can only change ourselves

The sooner we get this, the easiest the path will be, because dealing with all the internal transformation to change our external world, it’s more than enough.

Some common phrases and/or situations that we can encounter with these people that are part of our lives:

de segunda mano es mas verde

People throw away so many things, these boots were outside of a house, a common practice amongst people is to throw away something they don´t want anymore

  • “Who has the time to DIY at home and in the natural ways, and how do you know it works, if it hasn’t been approved by experts?”

I’ve experienced all of those situations and much more. Don’t stress, or get upset, think about all the process that lead you to question all of those things.

Tips to have a healthy relationship with them whilst you move onto a more sustainable lifestyle

  • Listen to them patiently, tell them you are still learning, and even if is little what you or they can do; they are giving their two cents to the world.
  • Respect them, perhaps they’ll always be like this, they might never change, and that’s ok. It’s a personal path.

Letting them choose their shade of green

I’ve been with my husband for ten years now, and if I can tell you something about him is that he is a kind person, he believes in taking care of nature and it’s a very conscious human being. However, as most of us, he’s learned a lot from our western society and so he believes in many paradigms, which is why he is not too keen to use my DIY toothpaste and eating fewer animal products hasn’t been quite the walk in the park for him.

You would’ve thought that I get really upset with him right? Wrong! This is what’ve done:

  • Give him the chance to choose, whatever makes him feel comfortable, that he doesn’t feel I’m forcing him
  • Watch documentaries with him that explain all of this “green” trends, with examples, facts and tangible results
  • Make it easier for him (I make him delicious, nutritious and filling vegan meals)
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A delicious meal we had at a vegan restaurant in London

  • I like to experiment with everything I can make at home, like the toothpaste and the no poo method for the hair, but I search for brands with sustainable values for him.

Conscious changes have to be made consciously

The results have been incredible, he knows makes more conscious and green decisions, he consumes less meat, thinks before buying anything that comes in plastic, and he is more aware of the brands that are in tune with those values.It’s not about forcing someone to be green, it’s about giving them a chance to get involve as much as they want, it’s about making it easier for them, it’s about making them question Where do my clothes come from? Where does my waste go? What are the consequences of my habits?

“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others” – Jacob M. Braude


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  • Reply
    9th May 2017 at 1:45 pm

    Que identificada me siento!
    Antes me frustraba mucho con la gente, ya he empezado a poner en práctica la escucha y a pensar que no es en mi contra y que como dices, muchos seguirán siendo así toda la vida.. aunque a veces me sigo frustrando..
    Por otro lado, me anima mucho los cambios que realizan las personas de mi alrededor y me dicen que han sido al leer el blog de la oveja verde de la familia

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      10th May 2017 at 10:36 pm

      Me contenta un monton Raquel, la verdad es que yo también me frustro cuando algunos piensan que nada de lo que hagan puede cambiar las cosas, pero luego uno consigue pequeños triunfos como ver algunos cambios inesperados en familiares y amigos y es gracias a que se sienten inspirados por nuestros cambios…es como eso que dice “Para cambiar el mundo, cambiate a ti mismo” y por ahí vamos. Gracias por leerme!

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    10th May 2017 at 8:26 am

    Me encantó el artículo! Muy cierto lo de aprender a respetar los procesos de cada quien, en esa medida nos hacemos mas tolerantes y sensibles a las opiniones diversas!

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      10th May 2017 at 10:34 pm

      Es así en la medida que nos respetemos más nos acercamos como personas y podemos trabajar juntos! 🙂

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    Little Green Duckie
    16th May 2017 at 4:51 pm

    Fantastic sensible post. This is exactly what I have learnt to do over the last few years. Setting a positive example is the way to go. Then people surprise you, in their own time. I had a friend, who I didn’t think noticed what I did, tell me she was on a mission at her workplace to get the disposable coffee cups removed, and washing facilities for reusable mugs put in!

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      16th May 2017 at 9:01 pm

      Wow that story is so inspiring! And yes I believe a positive approach is the best way to go, at least for me 🙂 Thank you so much for reading me! Love your blog as well 🙂 will follow your stories from now on 🙂

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